You are probably wondering how I can title this blog Functioning and Terrible. It is easy, my fiancée threw up blood and fainted at home last Thursday when I was off teaching a class.
Happily, she is OK at this point of time, but she is still in the hospital and the doctors still don’t know why this happened. It was a DeJa’Vu moment for me bringing back terrible memories of when my late spouse died in 2007 and I watched her being carried out on a stretcher.
Have you ever had these moments where something triggers memories that you thought you had moved past on? I have been struggling with emotions for 5 days, some because I am coming home to an empty house. Others because I am visiting a hospital again.
Covey and Holler talk about this in their book “Crescendo”. They talk specifically about Viktor Frankl and his study of why did some people survived the Nazi Concentration camps and others gave up and died.
It all had to do with their view of the world and whether they still had something to take care of or do in the future. They were focusing on what was ahead, their why, and not what was happening at that point of time.
I struggled after my wife died and got by initially by just putting one foot in front of the other. It wasn’t till I moved past grieving and started to focus on what my why was that I started to move on. There were things I wanted to accomplish in the future and dwelling on the past was not the answer.
Have you inhabited a dark space and struggled with the wrong perspective? If so, it means that you are human. It also means you have to shift your perspective to future focus and recognizing that you have to decide what will control your life.
Come and share your stories about how you dealt with shifting your focus and moved forward. Where is your next phase of life taking you? The third phase of life, the returning phase is your chance to seize that opportunity.
Are you a symbol of hope and inspiration to those around you? Do you wonder what you can give to help those who follow you? Do you wonder what you could do to make your life significant to someone else?
If you have struggled with these questions and issues then Patterson2Y2R should be a place you should visit. Share your stories and challenges. I have an ear that would love to hear your stories. Let’s taste the real meaning of life.
I am still working on my course with a goal of launching a starter course by June 30th, and I will keep you abreast as to how the process goes. If you want to participate in this process and join my first class please send me an email to www.bobchuckpatterson@yahoo.com
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